Fauxmos may reject the concept of fixed sexual and gendered identities. But this doesn’t mean we don’t have a history. Our history is the history of how we got into this mess in the first place, where people are defined and oppressed according to their biological make up and sex and gender identities, in relation to those of the people they fuck (or want to fuck, or feel guilty and ‘wrong’ for wanting to fuck).
Our first lesson is about how the ‘homosexual’ appeared in our consciousness, and what some of the implications have been for the solidifying of that ‘deviant’ sexual identity in our culture. Unfortunately, the Daddy of the history of sexuality, Michel Foucault is no longer around to deliver this lesson. So we found one of Michel’s sons and heirs, Mark Simpson to tell us a little bit about the emergence of sexuality as a meaningful form of social identity. Thank-you Mark for sharing your knowledge with us. Knowledge, as they say, is power.
Mark Simpson on the birth of the ‘sexual’ era (Out magazine, September 2009)
As you may have noticed, the out-and-proud modern gay, born amidst protest, shouting and flying bottles outside the Stonewall Inn in 1969, is now forty years old. But you may be less aware that this year is also the 140th birthday of a much more discreet and distinguished (if pathologized and sometimes pitiful) figure that Stonewall is often seen as making obsolete: the homosexual.
The offspring of Austrian-born Hungarian journalist Karl-Maria Kertbeny, the homosexual was delivered to the world in a couple of pamphlets he published anonymously in 1869 arguing against the Prussian anti sodomy law Paragraph 143 – the first appearance in print of the word.
Kertbeny argued that attraction to the same sex was inborn and unchangeable and that besides the law violated the rights of man: men should be free to do with their bodies as they pleased, so long as others were not harmed. Kertbeny maintained strenuously that he himself was ‘sexually normal’ (and there is no evidence to suggest otherwise, save perhaps his strenuousness).
Kertbeny’s ‘homosexual’, itself a disapproved conjugation of Greek and Latin, was part of a larger classificatory system of human sexual behaviour he conceived which included quaint terms such as ‘monosexuals’ (masturbators) and ‘pygists’ (aficionados of anal sex), most of which have not survived. However, another of his quaint categories has persisted and ultimately proved even more popular than the ‘homosexual’: the vast majority of people in the US today would happily and perhaps rather too hastily describe themselves as ‘heterosexual’ – despite the fact that the ‘father’ of heterosexuality, as Jonathan Ned Katz has pointed out in ‘The Invention of Heterosexuality’ (1995), seemed to conceive of heterosexuals as more sex-obsessed than homosexuals and more open to ‘unfettered degeneracy’.
Words like most offspring have a life of their own of course, and in this case one that worked against the coiner’s intentions. Despite Kertbeny’s libertarian if not actually homo-chauvinist sentiments, we might never have heard of the ‘homosexual’ (or indeed the ‘heterosexual’) if the word had not been adopted by Richard von Krafft-Ebing a few years later as a diagnosis for mental illness, setting the medical tone for much of the coming Twentieth Century with its aversion therapies, sex-lie detectors and psychiatric water-boarding.
Kertbeny’s double-edged legacy isn’t just the coining of the word ‘homosexual’, but helping to invent ‘sexuality’ itself: the very modern idea that there are different species of people constituted by their sexual preference alone – ‘heterosexuals’ and ‘homosexuals’ (and ‘bisexuals’ as an exception-to-prove-the-rule afterthought). Kertbeny invented the homosexual because he considered the other available terms, ‘pederast’, ‘sodomite’ and ‘invert’ too judgemental. He also saw no link between homosexuality and effeminacy — which he didn’t mind being judgemental about: he detested it.
As the brilliant sexual historian David Halperin puts it in his book ‘How To Do the History of Male Homosexuality’ (2002), pre-homosexual discourses referred to only one of the sexual partners: the “active” partner in the case of sodomy, the effeminate male or masculine female in the case of inversion. ‘The hallmark of “homosexuality”…’ he writes, ‘is the refusal to distinguish between same-sex sexual partners or to rank them by treating one of them as more (or less) homosexual than the other.’
The concept of the ‘homosexual’, medicalized or not, ultimately made possible the rise of the out-and-proud gay man, regardless of his own ‘role’ in bed or gender style, and also a gay community of equals. But it also tended to make all sex between men, however fleeting, however drunken, however positioned, ‘homo’ – along with all the participants, regardless of their sexual preference.
With the paradoxical result that there’s probably now rather less erotic contact – or in fact any physical contact at all – between males than there was when the homosexual was born, 140 years ago. The homosexual, in effect, monopolised same-sex erotics and intimacy.
Which is, frankly, a bit greedy.
‘pre-homosexual discourses referred to only one of the sexual partners: the “active” partner in the case of sodomy, the effeminate male or masculine female in the case of inversion. ‘The hallmark of “homosexuality”…’ he writes, ‘is the refusal to distinguish between same-sex sexual partners or to rank them by treating one of them as more (or less) homosexual than the other.’
I haven’t read Halperin. It is very illuminating. Makes me start to wonder though, about the ‘ranking’ of those partners within ‘homosexuality’. Everyone differentiates between those that do and those that are done to. I just don’t know exactly how in this context.
Also beyond homosexual relationships- how does the ranking between being the sodomiser and being the receiver get articulated in cross-sex couples? I do not know. But I think distinctions are made, even if subconsciously or in very cloaked ways. It is something I have felt through experience that I have no theory for.
I am not explaining this very well- it is something to do with gender. In hetero sex the woman is automatically traditionally positioned as the ‘receiver’. With the creation of ‘the homosexual’ is it always thought of as ‘feminine’ to be the receiver in gay relationships? And for heteros, with the obvious ‘you are gay if you have anal’ connotations for men, where does this leave women who take it up the arse? How are they positioned in relation to this discourse? The homos are not necessarily so interested in these questions for obvious reasons. But I am. (for obvious reasons).
and then there is strap-on play. I love queer theory but sometimes it isn’t queer enough.
Having posted this up here, I am made very aware of how unusual this website is, this identification of a non-identity. To occupy the spaces nobody else wants is genuinely lonesome at times, because nobody else wants them.
And yet here we are. And everywhere I look I see other people rejecting the binds of gender and sexuality stereotypes and oppressive social identities. In their own unique ways, and often at some personal and social cost.
Someone once asked me what I/we were ‘going to do’ with Fauxmos. As if it was a new social media app, or a brand of coffee or a band. I don’t think this has a commercial currency. I expect we will never get our definition of fauxmos in Urban Dictionary. There it will always say ‘a heterosexual who pretends to be gay to pull chicks’. I don’t think fauxmos are that clever at using sexual identity for immediate gain. Well this one isn’t. Though sometimes I pretend to be a ‘woman’ to pull ‘men’.
But/And/Therefore, I am very proud of us. Whoever we are.
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I read something a little strange, a few days ago, saying that in the latino gay culture, the one who is on top isn’t gay, and the only gay in the relation is the “effeminate” one.
Oh, and i love this post ! (I haven’t read anything else yet
Hi Sarah, I don’t know much about it, but I think quite a few men who have sex with men, come up with strange ways of defining themselves or others as ‘not gay’ or ‘less gay’ than the men they have sex with!
Mark Simpson who wrote this piece writes about this issue on his blog http://www.marksimpson.com
Hope you like Fauxmos!